Q.  I’ve been dating this guy for a little over a month and we recently decided to make it exclusive.  This may sound crazy, but he shows me too much attention.  I really like him, but I want to put the brakes on our relationship without hurting his feelings.  What should I do?

A.  You should tell him!  Communication is so important in any union, whether it’s been five months, five years or fifty years.  You MUST communicate and at least try to remain somewhere near the same page.  Ironically too much of a good thing can be a bad thing.  Too much attention can be smothering and overwhelming, but he won’t know that if you don’t tell him.  Examine what it is that he does that turns you off.  Most importantly, figure out if it’s really too much attention that is turning you off; or, alternatively, did you simply rush into the relationship?  Since your union is fairly new, you might be finding that the novelty has worn off.  Now that the dust has settled, you might be getting to know the real “him” and you may not like this new person.  Find out what it is and speak up!

Good luck!

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