Q. I caught my fiancé in the bed with another woman. I still love her, but I don’t know if I’ll ever trust her again.
A. Building back your trust in her will be difficult; not impossible. That doesn’t mean the relationship is over. It will definitely be a long road uphill from here. Find out why she cheated. Was she sexually bored, nervous about spending the rest of her sexual life with you, sewing her oats before marriage? Whatever it was, find out the reason and decide if it’s one you can live with. If it’s sexual, aim harder to please her. If it was jitters, reinforce your bond. Remind each other why you got engaged in the first place. Most importantly, if you forgive, you don’t have to forget; you must simply “forget” to mention it every day. It won’t help either one of you or the relationship if you constantly bring up bad memories.
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